My one year postpartum update, including recovery exercises, how weโre handling intimacy and thoughts on baby number two!
It seems crazy to me that itโs been a whole year since I gave birth. I thought seeing as you guys loved seeing my honest 6 month postpartum update, it would be a good idea to do a one year postpartum update too! Obviously every body is different and every personโs post-birth recovery is different, but I hope this post helps give you at least some idea of what to expect a year after birthing your tiny human.
The one thing I really want to get across before we dive in is that this isnโt specifically focusing on weight loss. I donโt believe in the โbounce-backโ mentality. I use nutrition as a way to feel good, not necessarily to lose the baby weight. Your body will always be a little bit different after you have a baby, Iโm not sure it ever goes back to โnormalโ. But if anything, the changes in your body are just a reminder that you grew life inside you – and thatโs AMAZING!
If youโre not familiar with what diastasis recti is, itโs basically when your abs separate during pregnancy. I think it happens to some degree to everyone, but if they donโt go back after baby is born it can sometimes take some intentional work to fix it. I only had a one or two finger wide gap mostly at the top, but if your abs havenโt gone back together after youโve given birth Iโd recommend speaking to a professional. It might be that you need to see a trainer who is experienced in postpartum recovery or even do some simple workouts online and breathing exercises. Check out the video above for some exercises that have really helped me, as well as these videos that I really enjoyed:
I got my period about 3 months after having Sage, even though I was exclusively breastfeeding. I do notice a slight dip in my milk supply during my time of the month but I think that happens to a lot of women from what I hear. It is different though! I have a much heavier flow these days, which I mentioned in my 15 Things That Change When You Become A Mom blog post.
As you know, when you have a baby (especially if youโve given birth vaginally) your pelvic floor is in need of some repair and support. I remember one time when Sage had a poop explosion – hitting me clean in the face, might I add! – I started to pee a little bit because I was laughing. Then when Mr Matt noticed and asked me if I was peeing, the flood gates opened! So, I guess the moral of that story is if your pelvic floor is making you question what life is, I feel you! Again, I show some exercises that helped strengthen my pelvic floor in the video above. Keep doing your kegals (holding, pulses and holding while moving) and try this workout to specifically target the pelvic floor.
We talk about this every now and again. We do want another baby, but itโs trying to find that โperfect timeโ – not that the perfect time really exists! One of my goals this year is to feel stronger and more confident as a person and mother. I also want to get into more strength training, focusing on my core strength and pelvic floor and all the things that get stretched out when youโre pregnant! Hopefully by the time weโre ready for another baby Iโll be in a good place physically and mentally.
A really important thing to remember when exercising post-birth, is that just because something is considered a โpostpartum safeโ exercise, you still need to be careful. If something hurts, youโre probably not there yet. Just because someone else can do it, doesnโt mean itโs right for your body just yet. If you push yourself itโs going to do more harm to your body than good, especially if youโre not doing it right. Make sure youโre breathing through all your moves, and you probably want to avoid any jumping moves to begin with because your body will still have high levels of relaxin in it, which can lead to injury.
After having Sage, once it was safe for me to do so, the majority of my exercise postpartum was walking. I then did one training workout a week with my friend Laura, who is a pre and post-natal fitness coach. If youโre looking for some postpartum workout resources, these are my faves:
My favourite postpartum friendly exercises areโฆ
I talk a lot about our sleep journey in this blog post, but basically we had the newborn stage waking up every couple of hours, and then we had a kind of โhoneymoonโ phase. This was where Sage was sleeping really great, and I thought I had the most amazing sleeper. Then all of a sudden the four month sleep regression kicked in, and I think that was harder to deal with than the newborn stage. Iโd make sure to have naps, rested when I could, and if Sage fell asleep on me Iโd just embrace it. Lilbabysleep on Instagram is a great resource that really helped me.ย
Itโs so important to look after your mental health, especially when youโre a mom. Hormones, sleep deprivation and just the huge change your life has gone through can all mess with your emotions. One of the hardest things for me besides navigating being a new mom and getting used to that life, has been growing and raising a child during the pandemic. It means Iโve had to grieve a lot of things Iโve missed out on, like no mommy groups, no play dates and minimal family gatherings.ย
I recommend getting outside as much as possible. Connecting with other moms virtually if that’s all that’s available to you. Thereโs something about being outside in nature that is so healing, and Sage would always have the best naps outside. Meditation also really helps to feel good mentally. Do what you need to do to feel good, whether itโs a bath or a walk on your own listening to a podcast, and donโt forget to support your partner to do what they need to do to feel good.
I donโt talk a whole lot about weight, mainly because I prefer to focus on feeling good as opposed to numbers. But Iโve been getting a lot of questions about my postpartum weight loss, so figured Iโd chat about it a little bit here. Please remember, this is just me! Do not compare yourself, because your body will be different to mine. Also remember that muscle weighs more than fat (as do big milk filled breasts!) so focusing on the numbers on the scale isnโt always the best thing to do if youโre looking to be healthy overall.
I lost about 20 pounds after I gave birth, and then was left with about 10 extra pounds that just stuck around. Thatโs totally normal, and itโs also normal to have more than that. It took me about 6 months to lose that extra 10 pounds. My focus was definitely on fuelling my body with wholesome home-cooked food so that I could produce enough milk for Sage. Breastfeeding does help to some extent, because youโre burning more calories. But that being said I was definitely eating more because breastfeeding makes you super hungry, and if you donโt eat those extra calories youโre going to struggle with milk supply.ย
Wondering what I eat on a regular basis to stay healthy? These meals are my absolute go-toโs. I always have the ingredients for these meals in my pantry and fridge, and can whip them up easily and quickly.
Breakfast
Mains
Snacks
Sweets
I was super lucky and didnโt get any stretch marks. I think itโs somewhat out of your control, but I did make my own belly oil which I used religiously. Loose skin, however, I did get on both my breasts and my belly. Again, itโs super normal, and I imagine it will only get more so each time you have a baby.
I felt ready for intimacy pretty soon after giving birth, but having said that I didnโt tear on my perineum. I did a lot of perineal stretching, which I talk about in my How To Prepare For An Unmedicated Birth blog post. Iโm sure if I had torn it would have been much more painful and that would have made a huge difference. If you tore, donโt be hard on yourself! And even if you didnโt tear, you might not feel ready for intimacy for a while and thatโs okay!ย
I honestly feel like it took a good year after having Sage to start feeling like myself. Once she was sleeping through the night, I definitely did feel more sane, but to actually feel like me it took a good year. Once Sage was a year old we were in a good routine, I was finding time to look after myself and my mental and physical health, and I was getting good sleep. It does still change every day though, and itโs still hard to find a good balance.
Do you have any top postpartum tips? Leave them in the comments below to help out other moms-to-be!
If youโre after more postpartum tips, be sure to check out my Top 11 Tips and Hacks for Postpartum and my 9 Productivity Tips for Moms.
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I am 6 months postpartum and I feel like I had the exact same experience with just a lot less exercise. Not a lot of women talk about this but one of my least favorite parts of the post partum experience was the cramping I would get while breastfeeding. I felt like I was experiencing mini labor pains all over again. It didn’t help that I was learning how to breastfeed. The hormones for me were also absolutely berserk. I remember before a family members wedding, I had a massive anxiety attack and almost didn’t go entirely. Thank goodness my husband’s family were so welcoming and understanding.
Thanks for sharing your experience. It reminds me how grateful I am that I didn’t have to experience these things during covid.